Talking to people you trust

Talking to parents, family members and/or guardians
People closest to you may already be aware of any bladder and bowel control issues you’re having. They may be supporting you as you manage your issues, but if not, talking to them can be a really important first step.

Talking to friends
Talking to your friends about your bowel or bladder health might be scary, but talking to friends you trust can help make you feel less alone. If you’re not ready to tell them or you’d prefer they didn’t know, that’s fine too. If you do talk to friends about it, make it clear if you don’t want them to tell anybody else.

Talking to teachers
Sometimes it might be important for your teachers to know that you’re experiencing some bladder or bowel control issues. They can have your back, let you go to the toilet whenever you want, and better support you while you’re at school. If you don’t want to talk to your teachers yourself you can always ask your parents or other trusted adults to talk to them for you.

How should I start a conversation about incontinence?

• Think about what you want to say before the time comes so you have a clear plan when you start the conversation. Practise what you’re going to say if you think it will help.
• Remind yourself that you’re talking about a medical condition, just like asthma or a sports injury. There’s nothing to be embarrassed about.
• Think about asking a supportive family member or friend to be with you when you’re with telling other people.
• Make sure you’re in a safe space where you feel comfortable having the conversation.
• Consider any questions that people might have and think of how you might answer them.
• Remember: even though you might find it a bit embarrassing to talk about, starting a conversation with people close to you can make you feel better and give you that extra level of support.